Chi's Pen

My first thought is love is hard. My next thought is love isn’t hard relationships are hard.

LOVE: 1. a profoundly tender, passionate affection for another person. 2. A feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection, as for a parent, child, or friend. 3. Sexual passion or desire. These three definitions are from dictionary.com. If you look at each definition can you see the action of loving based on these definitions is not hard, it is the relationships that go with the love that is the hard part.

Do you agree there is a difference in loving someone and being in love? No you don’t agree, tell me why? My thought is you can love a person, you can love how a person makes you feel when you hang out, when you talk and laugh but to be in love with them is just not it.

Personal thought: I had someone who was MY PERSON( Grey’s Anatomy reference) and in 2012 everything fell apart. He stopped being my person, he stopped being all I wanted him to be for me. I was devastated and heartbroken, I didn’t want to see him or speak to him. It took a while but we are now friends and I love him but being in love with him is a WRAP. I wish no harm on him but my desire to make sure he is ok on a daily basis is not the same. Of course I wouldn’t want anything to happen to him but his well-being is not my priority. That sounds a little harsh as I type it but that is how I feel.

What I have learned in my life about love is that it is fun. Love is happiness, love is side hurting laughter, love is I’m mad at you but I want to make sure you eat and sleep well. Everyone should experience true honest love at least once in their lives.

It is my hope, if you haven’t gotten to know love yet, you are always open to find it.

Chi’s Pen 🖋️